"Does the feminist kill other people's joy by pointing out moments of sexism? Or does she expose the bad feelings that get hidden, displaced or negated under public signs of joy? [...]
"The angry black woman can be described as a killjoy; she may even kill feminist joy, for example, by pointing out forms of racism within feminist politics. [...]
"To speak out as a woman of color is then to confirm your position as the cause of tension; your anger is what threatens the social bond. [...]
The exposure of violence becomes the origin of violence."
Sara Ahmed, Creating Disturbance: Feminism, Happiness and Affective Differences
and there's that rare feeling again - sheer relief when somone pins down a truth that is so obscured by our culture. those who identify violence disrupt the comfort and happiness of those who are profiting from that violence. and they will consider that disruption to be violence against them, so entitled do they feel to that comfort and happiness.